Should you make the move?
Should you turn your lives upside down? Expose your family to culture shock and homesickness? (It is completely normal to be homesick when you relocate. In fact, you will always be homesick from your previous post no matter how many times you move).
Consider the implications for all family members
It’s easy to get caught up in the idea of teaching overseas. Daydreaming about exotic destinations, travel opportunities, and the excitement of expat life. However, unless you have given serious consideration to your family members as well, things may not work out as planned. Speaking from experience, we spent some time in the first few months of our second overseas posting (this time in tow with primary school-aged boys) asking ourselves if we had done the right thing by them as they missed their friends so much.
Wise words
A recruiter who attended the Melbourne Fair in 2020 inspired this post. He said “… Some candidates who had never been in an international teaching role needed to consider if they were really ready to take the step out. Some teachers with non-teaching partners or children didn’t seem to consider the full picture of taking their entire family overseas. I think they needed to be front-loaded more with raising a family abroad.” So here it is –
The full picture
There will be higher highs and lower lows when you live overseas with your family. Parents get to see the world through the eyes of their children. The opposite is also true – not only is there more planning and organisation required in taking children overseas, but if one of you is not happy, they will affect the others! Families are right to keep tabs on how their children will cope and adapt to a new school system or country. Sometimes, after the initial homesickness or missing friends, it is often the parents who are much slower to adjust!
Was it perfect NO. Was it always easy NO. Was it worth it YES YES YES. Nothing worthwhile comes easily. I am just so glad we had a crack. Memories made that we’ll talk about forever. Carrie Bickmore on travelling with her family
Do your research!
Sound out your family before making any plans. Take the time to listen carefully to their thoughts. Research life overseas before making a decision and evaluate both the positive and negative aspects carefully. Look at videos or browse the internet together as a family, and discuss the likely benefits of the new destination as well as any concerns that family members may have. Online communities mean you can reach out to locals or fellow expats, getting valuable insight into how life works out there.
Find someone with a similar family structure
If you do get an offer from a school ask to be put in contact with another teacher in a similar family configuration. They will be able to advise you impartially. If you go on to accept an offer, many schools have a buddy system to connect you with staff already at the school. They can answer all your questions about the school but also about everyday life such as what’s available to buy, ease of public transport or purchasing a car or information about local healthcare.
Think about who you are taking with you
Consider your family members and whether it is fair to ask them to come along; balance the pros and cons from everyone’s point of view. Expat life involves a change in just about every part of life. Family members will be interacting with new people in entirely new situations. Think about them – their personalities and learning styles, their ages and social requirements, and how they will respond to the challenge. How are their coping resources? People who find a move the easiest are open-minded, emotionally stable, and have a high level of social initiative.
What they will give up
Most international school contracts are for 2 years. Discuss if you make do without –
- Extended family and friends. You will not be available in a crisis or for celebrations. Grandparents may miss their grandchildren.
- Organisations or activities at home that might not be
available in your new country eg sports, clubs, churches? What options are available in the new destination? - Your current climate. Consider environmental risks such as earthquakes or cyclones, and whether the level of risk would be a concern to you and your family. Find out if there are other health hazards such as high pollution levels. These may be a particular concern if family members suffer from respiratory conditions such as asthma.
- Familiar territory and routines. Organizing life in a new location is more demanding.
- Visa restrictions may prevent your partner from working.
Benefits of working overseas
- Children can explore a new culture, learn a language, or study subjects not available to them at home.
- Take part in a world-class education and take advantage of free tuition. Many international schools have fees above and below the US $30,000 mark. Schools regularly offer two children per family free tuition and a growing number will provide for three children. This is a massive saving for families.
- Your family may become closer, sharing adventures and experiences not open to those back home.
- You get to go to the same school as your kids
- There are many experiences to enjoy out of school. Visit famous landmarks, eat in renowned restaurants, take up the national sport, or become fluent in the language.
What other teachers say
“My three siblings and I loved our international upbringing. We received a top-quality education, developed a love of travel, and became adaptable and confident. We made incredible friends and have a zest for life! A strong family unit is key, and parents must be supportive and realistic about the challenges of relocating. Our varied educational systems and experiences with different cultures shaped us positively. While there were some downsides, like missing grandparents and leaving friends behind, we always considered Australia home. Parents who embrace a new way of life set a great example for their children!” Simone
The fine print
Immigration regulations vary enormously between countries and it is absolutely essential to obtain specific information regarding the country that you are planning to move to, finding out well in advance what types of visas or permits, if any, are required for yourself and any family members accompanying you, and what the procedures and the time frame for obtaining these.
Recommendations
Change is a constant in life.
It’s an opportunity for growth which can be daunting and which requires adaptation.
Don’t let fear hold you back! Many of our regrets stem from missed opportunities. And making life-changing decisions can be stressful. A new study suggests a “good rule of thumb in decision-making is, whenever you cannot decide what you should do, choose the action that represents a change, rather than continuing the status quo,” says University of Chicago economist Steven Levitt, who conducted the study.
After making your decision, actively prepare and share the news with your family. Together, embark on a journey of learning about the culture, listening to and familiarizing yourselves with the language, and researching everything you can about the school.
Search Associates made it easy to filter through so many great teaching opportunities to find the one that was right for me and my family. Amy Godoy-Guerra
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